Tween, an age that is pure, delicate and above all needs more attention of any parent. This is when you will notice many changes and multiple new issues coming up with your child. Like every parent, you also grow each day with your child but these tweens is not your little baby girl or baby boy, they assume they are independent but they need you the most.
Wow!! I believe this is the most wonderful stage of life when kids learn and tend to explore answers to unknown questions and there comes the responsibility of parents. A tween is a child whose age lies between 9 years and 12 years. Certainly not a little child and not a teenager.
As they are in between these two beautiful age group you will notice huge differences and changes in terms of their behavior, emotional, physical and mental.
7 Challenges faced by Tween
As I mentioned, the real challenge starts when kids enter this stage of life as you would be the biggest support system for them. Trust me, for me also this term tween was new and when I researched more I found myself in the same set of parents who are dealing with this age group.
Call them preteens, middle schoolers or tween they themselves will face different kinds of obstacles in these years.
1. Flicker in interest: The biggest change that I found in my girl was a change of interest. The girl who loves to play basketball now just want to go for athletes who never showed a single interest. Switched from singing classes from dance classes and that too classical dance.
2. New Responsibilities: Kids who never did anything alone now will tell you they can do their own stuff. As a parent, I feel happy and proud when she show her this side, but how much responsibility we should give them and they can handle need to be monitored.
3. Change in academics: With higher grade comes more studies and homework. Where your little one was just happily doing his/her homework in just 1 hour or two, now have to dedicate more time to studies which will be one of the most common factors where you will feel the difference in actions and attitude.
4. Physical changes: Both your girl and boy will approach their puberty and those physical changes in their body will lead to mood swings, irritation, and anxiety.
5. Friendship goals: Exposure to a new world, to new theories and new friends, these all should be monitored. I remember my mother always mentioned that you become according to your friend circle. It’s important to tell them to be responsible while choosing friends who give you the right advice, bring positivity and stand by you. Now standing by your friend doesn’t mean stand by in wrong deeds too, this needs to explain in a very positive manner.
6. Brain Development: Along with physical and emotional changes one thing which affects the most and needs to be taken care of is the brain and mental development.
7. Social Challenge: Nowadays, even I see when my daughter plays with kids of her age who all are tween have some set rules and they only consider their friends. They accept friendship with any child who fit in their rules or group rule. This brings up many times the social acceptance challenge among kids.
Now as I mentioned these common 7 challenges faced by your tween we need to be equally vigilant by doing some common things and make these wonderful years happier and growing!!
Few tips for parents:-
1. Communication: Like I always believe that communication is the basic need of any relationship and in any age. So keep your communication channel always open for your tween too and be available for them at the time of their need.
They might of so much to tell or on the contrary stay quiet and introvert speaking up. Try to make a perfect bridge in between where you both can communicate. They should have confidence that their parents are available to hear them out and support them.
2. Command of Language: Now this is the age where they understand all your language and meaning. For them, proverbs or idioms, bad words or anything is more understandable. As a parent, we should watch our words as if they feel that we are just trying to play with words they will surely understand.
3. Leadership: Now when I say this age starts taking up responsibility, it will automatically bring along leadership. You need to maintain and tell the difference between independent, responsible and leadership. As my father always told me these three things to be handled very carefully.
4. Emotional connect: Don’t think that your little baby can handle all now as one thing which might be very small for you, can affect them emotionally if not physically. Be available if you feel they are emotionally hurt or even happy.
There might be different milestones for each and every child but if you find your little one applying logics to situations or problems, starts understanding cause and effect sequence, when they tell their point of view and above all understand others too, strongly shows concern about being liked or accepted, these are few checkpoints or milestone of your tween.
These are common factors but there would be a huge difference between the mood swings and changes between your girl and a boy tween. Their friendship goals and in dressing. You will notice them enjoying creating their own secret codes and passwords with their friends, and that’s the beauty of this age.
Let them do and allow them some privacy with friends you will notice yourself getting more connected to you and share a special bond as with trust, care, and unconditional love will bring you and your tween connected forever.
Do you have a tween at home? Have you marked any changes in your kid’s behavior you want to share with us? Comment below and share your thoughts and experience.
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